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Annie's Mailbox

Annie's mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of
the 'Ann Landers' Column.

Saturday, May 16, 2009 Published

Dear Annie:
This is in response to "Had Enough" who had a colostomy and is no longer interested in intimacy. I had my Ostomy surgery 21 years ago, at the age of 21. I have since learned that the Ostomy is only a 4 x4 inch square with a pouch. My face, eyes, arms, legs, smile, mind, etc. are still the same. I have found that taking care of my body helps me feel better about it, and the Ostomy doesn't have to change anything except how I use the restroom. I exercise scuba dive, travel and love life. My husband and I have been together for 15 years, and the Ostomy affects nothing in our relationship because I have learned that my self-worth is based on many qualities, and the right-hand side stomach isn't one of them.

OPTIONS™, an online company makes wonderful undergarments. There are online support groups too. An Ostomy is created to save our lives, and how we have to decide how to live them. I choose joy and happiness. If she can find her own way down the same path, that 4x4 inch square pouch won't seem so big anymore.

-The Happy "Bag" Lady-

Dear Happy: Thank you, for the words of encouragement. We hope she is listening.